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  1. My son 20 yrs old is not thriving after struggling to follow intro gaps for 18 months. He is trying as best as a 20 yr old can to follow the directives but the following conditions make the healing process impossible. He cannot follow diet and supplement directives by the gaps practitioners we have video skyped with and he is his defiant towards my husband and I if we try to remind him or hold him accountable.
    He has struggled with ADD INATTENTIVE unmedicated for 7 yrs since 7th grade and food intolerances which have gravely worsened complicating his ability to move thru gaps intro stages.
    . He became addicted to pot in hs and is is still battling food cravings and now has been diagnosed with anxiety, depression and body dysmorphic disorder. We have tried 2 gaps practitioners snd supplements, homeopathy, muscle testing, colonics enemas, earthing. He refuses traditional lcounseling by a psychologist or medd fearing it might worsen his gut healing.
    Psychologists here in Orlando say it is a very complex case. We have visited Dr Dabid Perlmutter too. We would like to know h

  2. Continued : Our son is unemployable and has dropped out of college twice due to his emotional and physical state. We have been searching unsuccessfully for a seasoned mentor & life coach who lives, cooks the gaps lifestyle to inspire, counsel our son in person. Zero leads for truely qualified individuals.
    We would like to know if it is possible to schedule seeing Dr NCM in person? Please help us survive 7 yrs of heartbreak parenting. My husband has MS which is worsening over our inability to help our son help himself.
    Additionally we attend counseling specifically to discuss Adams situation which is too complex for Orlando pychologosts. Ty in advance.

    • Dear Vicki,

      First, I apologize for responding so late: My website stopped sending me notifications of comments, so I missed a whole bunch!

      I’m so sorry to have left your post unanswered for so long. I can hear the stress and heartbreak in it.

      I know that you’re in one of the worst positions possible, dear Vicki. You desperately want to help your son heal, and he really wants to heal too, yet there are so many barriers! His ADD interferes with his ability to stick with a plan, even though he really wants to, and when you try to remind him, he is resistant. His food intolerances also get in the way of being able to move through the stages.

      Vicki, I unfortunately don’t know if it is possible for you (anyone) to see Dr Campbell-McBride in person. I simply don’t know, and this is something you would need to contact her about via her website or perhaps via International Nutrition (the primary distributor for her books in the States).

      My heart hurts when I read your story. As I note in GAPS Guide (2nd Edition), there are easier and harder times to implement GAPS. When our kids are very young it is easier, because we have total control over their diet. The only other easy (ish) time to do it is when we grow into full adulthood and make our own adult commitment to the program. When a person is between these two life stages, it is -as you note- incredibly difficult. Even the most compassionate, caring parent cannot make her older child do GAPS. You’re in one of the toughest positions a parent can be in, dear Vicki: desperately wanting healing for him, yet not having any control over that.

      Considering all the variables you mentioned, I believe your adult son will be able to do GAPS only when he has made his own decision to do so -and the decision to invite others’ active help (e.g., direction and reminders) in addressing his barriers to success. It’s simply not possible to heal an adult who is not sticking with a given program and who is resisting the support offered.

      Vicki, have you read GAPS Guide (2nd Edition)? In it, I tell much of my story, including the struggles I had through my 20s. I became homeless, slept outside, etc. I came out the other side of that. Your son can, too, but only when he puts in place everything he needs to succeed in that. Many of us take a long time to get to the point of doing so. This is terribly hard for parents -and others- to witness, I know.

      What’s happening is not your fault. And you’re not alone in this pain, Vicki. If it fits, my primary recommendation to you at this point would be getting help and support for you, in your own grieving and stress around not being able to heal another adult, even if he is your own dear son. Resources for this might include groups like Codependents Anonymous -such groups have been lifesavers for me- and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I’m not saying you are ill; I’m saying you’re in a very stressful situation and deserve all the love and support and understanding and relief you can get!

      I welcome you to write again.

      All my best,

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